Leaving Home and Going to a New Home

Our beliefs, customs or tradition is that a newly married woman leaves her parents home and goes on to live at her in laws. Very rare the husband stays with his wife's family. After mine and Miel's reception, we went to his parents house for the cake cutting ceremony..When we reached his parents' home, we got stopped by his cousins..they won't let us in the house until Miel "pay" them..It's like you have to pay toll only then the crossbar will raise...It was really interesting to watch Miel being 'bullied' by them..hehehe..Finally, after putting up playful arguments, Miel's eldest aunty came to our rescue :)..the first step into my parents in law's house i felt really nervous but welcomed..so that was really good :)..after all the ceremonies, myself and Miel head to my parents house to stay there for few days..finally the day to leave my home, my family has come..it was really difficult for me..I was sobbing silently to myself and Miel knew that I'm feeling sad...The night before he said to me, "Esok nanti jgn menangis k"...I said, "I'll try but it's gonna be difficult" and he said, "Yeah, I know"...In the evening on that day, his cousin sister, sister and grandma came to jemput Miel and I to his parents' hse..Before leaving, my mum already prepared a game for both of us..it's called congkak..but it's unlike those traditional Malay congkak...everyone said it's unique :)..and the result of the match?..It was a DRAW..it's very rare you get draw in congkak game..my mum and grandma wanted to have a rematch..but I didn't want coz i'm happy with the result :)...when the moment to leave came, my mum hugged me..and both of us started to cry...I sobbed when i hugged each of my family member whom was there..everyone had teary eye..for some reason i felt really difficult to part from my brother and sister in law..When I hugged my sis in law, i hugged her tightly...and when i salam my bro, i held on to his hand and i didn't want to let go..only then i realized how attached i am to them especially my sis in law whom just came into our family a year ago...I was really sad to leave my family behind but Miel was there next to me...He consoled me and understood what I was going through...last week Miel and I stayed for 2 nights at my parents' house(some unwanted incident took place during this time, will talk more about it on the next post)and i didn't shed a tear when i leave..I guess i got over it...even then, deep inside, I still miss my parents, siblings and my home..No matter what, I know my family will always be there for me..they have done so much and I really appreciate it! :)

16 days

It has been exactly 16 days since I last updates my blog. Curious to know where I have been missing these 16 days...well it was all for good :)...Many important events took place in my life..One of the most important ones is my Wedding..yeap, I'm offically a Mrs now...Mrs. AR( Miel's real name :P)..I've been holding the title for 11 days and Insya Allah the title remains for the rest of my life...both of us have been counting the days and finally the moment came....the moment that we have been waiting for..really wonder how fast times flies...I remember 1 day before our wedding, Miel called in the middle of the night..He said he's sleepy but he couldn't fall asleep..I couldn't sleep either..I guess both of us were really nervous thinking about the next day..On my Mehndi night, I wasn't nervous at all but I was nervous that night and the nervousness got even worse during the solemnization(nikah)..but when I saw Miel after he have succesfully 'lafaz' nikah, there was only one thing running in my mind..I'm a wife now...and there's my husband standing in front of me..at that moment itself all I felt was calm :)....the nikah, reception and other ceremonies went on smoothly...syukur Alhamdullilah..I always believe that with parents and families blessings, everything will turn out well...the interesting part about our wedding is that the ceremonies both families conducted to welcome the newly weds..you could see the happiness on the faces of family members..the smiles and laughter..It's just PRICELESS..all these I will cherish for the rest of my life..thank you so much to everyone-my parents, parents in law, my family and my in laws family whom whole heartedly accepted me, friends and of course not forgetting my Love, my hubby...Looking forward to many happy years of living life with you :)

PS:on the next entry, shall talk about how diffcult it was to leave my parents, my siblings...my home

On A Rainy Day

I was driving to work with my dad next to me like usual. Just about few kilometers away from my office, the cars on the road started to slow down due to the rain. The distance between the car in front of me and mine was about 2 or 3 cars lengths. I notice the brake light on the car  and I stepped on the brake. But my car kept moving and it's not stopping. I panicked and as my car kept moving, I thought I'm going to hit the car which a BMW..Within that few seconds, there were many things running in my mind at the same time..Just few inches away from the bumper of that car, my car finally stopped. I don't know what  happened. I know I didn't step on the accelerator. My foot was on the brake. My dad said what was on my mind, "Careful, your wedding is nearing"..and I could feel my eyes teared. I guess I got panicked that drops of tears started to flow. Saying syukur to Allah that nothing bad happened and I continued driving and reached office safely. Pa asked me to step couple of times on the brake pad so that it will clear off the water. and after doing that, I could feel the bake pads got harder. It seems on a rainy day, the waters tend to splash up on the brake pads, making them slippery.

Ya Allah, please protect me, my family and my loved ones from calamity, disaster..Lindungi la kami dari segala bala, bencana, penyakit dan musibah, Ya Allah Ya Tuhanku...Amin

Mr. Right

When I ask some of my friends especially the girls whom are still single, if they have anyone special, they will answer, "Haven't found Mr. Right yet"...this is like the common answer you can expect from most single girls..Trust me, there's no such thing as Mr. Right..you can go hunting to any corner of the world but you will never find one..It's about finding the imperfect person and seeing and accepting the person as who he is..Life will be so much easier and less disappointing if you don;t have high expectations towards your partner (someone taught me this and it took me sometime to agree with it..hehe)..If both parties are able to accept  flaws and still love each other unconditionally, then you have found your soul mate or  maybe your Mr.Right..So I have found my mine. Have you? :)

Ma

All I am, or can be, I owe to my angel mother ~~By Abraham Lincoln~~

 

Ma, I'm your child, your daughter..no matter what, you don't and never should say sorry to me..Even if you think what you said was not right or I got upset with anything you said, I never expect apologizes from you..You are the best mother I could ever ask for..You have all rights on me simply because I was in you for 9 months, and you nurtured me and took care of me and provide me the best..You will always be my inspiration especially now when I'm going to be married and will someday have a child of my own..I always pray to Allah may you and Pa have a long life and may all your wishes and dreams come true...

 

Ma,I will always love you!!

I appreciate for anything you do for me..Of course, I do..I'm truly sorry for changing the plans..I wanted to do it as you wished..and I didn;t mean to change it..I'm sorry...

Last Single Sunday

For months I have been counting the days..from 2 months, to 4 more Sundays, then 2 more Sundays, and now there's no more Sundays left to be counted..At this same day next week, at this hour, Miel will be with me..officially as my husband :)..I'm having all sorts of mixed feelings now, thinking that there's only few more days left for my BIG day..happy,nervous,worried,excited,..sometimes feeling a little panicky...People say it;s normal, everyone goes through it, bla bla bla..but it's easier to say it..only i know what I feel inside..Just hoping everything turns out well..that's all..:)
Now it's about my family i;m thinking about..my parents especially..after I get married, I will be moving out from my home and will be living with Miel and my new family...so I'm already starting to miss my parents so much..I'm going to miss the arguments I have with them(always! :P)..I;m going to miss going to work with my dad..you know among my siblings i'm the closest one to my parents..probably because I'm the anak manja of the family..hehe....Ever since I started going to work with my dad, I have became even more closer to him...We will be talking about work, life, general stuffs..sometimes through out the journey, both of us will be silent..layan fikiran masing-masing...sometimes I will be talking and he won;t even reply..but I know he is listening..and when he;s talking especially about his work, I will be listening..and of course there are arguments..that one mesti ada!..haha..usually it's arguments about my driving..my dad thinks i drive fast and not careful...we still have that argument until today :)..as for my my dear mother, whom is also my best friend, I'm going to miss talking stories with her..she;s also my gossiping partner!..hehe..What else I can say about my mum, she's an angel :)...Pa and Ma, I'm sorry for eveything..I know I have hurt your feelings and behaved disrespectful to both of you...To me, both of you are the greatest parents in the world...You have done so much for me and I know if you will always be there for me...I will always love both of you..and no matter what, I will always be your anak manja :)..

Pa, I know you;re so proud to be  "Father of the bride"..Reminds me of Steve Martin;s movie :)