Current song addiction #1

For some reason, lately I get excited when this song goes on radio or TV

Not sure why..;)

1 month and 3 days..unbelieveable???..Believe it! ;)

I used to call him Mr.Fiancee and now I address him as Mr.Husband....still can't believe that I got one step ahead in my life that change my-all-these-years-single-title :P...It's been 1 month and 3 days,I and him got married...Lots of people, family, friends asked the same question, "How's married life"?...The same answer I give is, "Okay lahhh"..hehe..seriously I don't know what answers to give...either I replied them that or I say "So far so good"..So yeah, it's been going on good...there's still a long way to go..there will be ups and downs throughout our life..there's a lot to learn about being a wife, learn about Mr.Husband, learn about each other, learn to lead a happy,successful married life..I have faith in Allah..therefore, Insya Allah, our married life will always be filled with happiness,peace and harmony..and especially in bad times, may Allah give Mr.Husband and I strength and patience to overcome any obstacle..and may our faith towards Allah will always remain..Though it's unbelievable that I'm a WIFE to a man now, but there's one thing I believe in..that I and him are meant to be together...

As the famous saying goes, "Match Made In Heaven" ;)

happy for her :)

A special occasion took place on the 3rd October..My dearest cousin @ Sil Rena( that's her famous nick name :P) engagement :)...when she told me that she was getting engaged, I was shocked, surprised but happy of course..the best part is it was just 2 weeks since I got married and the following week is her engagement...Lagi terkejut..haha..The occasion went on smoothly and she was such a happy bride on that day, despite her loose character was still there, trying to take a peak on her fiancee when he just arrived...Some things just don't change :P...I can assure you that I'm the most happiest person on earth that's she's engaged now..Only she and I knows why :)..Dear Rena, do you know I'm so happy and thankful to Allah that things are turning out well for you?..I wish you and your fiancee@soon-to-be-hubby many more happy married years..Love and appreciate each other always..and enjoy the moments of counting the days for your BIG day :)..Cherish every moment k..Love you lots loose! ;)

the forgetful me

Earlier I went out to buy breakfast and cash out some money. Tomorrow, myself, Miel and his grandma will be going to Ipoh. My MIL left to Dubai yesterday for 1 month and since all of us are working, my FIL decided to send Miel's grandma to her sister's house in Ipoh. My FIL asked Miel and I to visit my MIL's sister as well and also my youngest uncle who is staying in Kuala Kangsar.Since my credit on handphone is running low and we will be on a long journey tomorrow,  I went to the 123 convenience store for reload. I asked reload of RM20, paid the cashier and walked out. At office, I keyed in the PIN number stated on the reload receipt and I got error message on my mobile screen, "Network Problem" ..Thinking that I have keyed in incorrect PIN number, i tried again couple of times. Still failed. I started to curse the Telco service. Thought there was a problem with the Telco service I'm using. Then, I saw the name of the Telco service on the reload receipt. Darn!!!! Silly me..I accidentally purchased reload of X telco instead of Y..RM20 pulak tu!!..Asked my colleagues around who's using X..Luckily there were 2 colleagues of mine who is using it and sold the reload receipt 1 each..Nasib baik dieorg x mintak reload for free..hehehe...anyway, I don't how I can purchase X reload instead of Y..I don't even remember saying, "Nak reload X ye?" to the 123 convenience store cashier..Haih, I'm such a forgetful person...Like yesterday evening, I left the key on the main door latch of my home..caused panic to my FIL, Miel's aunty and grandma when they came back home seeing the key hanging on the latch...the panic got higher especially for my FIL when he started calling my name and  my mobile but there was no answer...I was so afraid to stay at home alone after "the unwanted incident" happened 2 weeks ago..so right after I came back from work, I switched on the living room light and fan and the kitchen light and went up straight to my room, locked the door, took my bath and laid myself on the bed..too afraid to go downstairs, I stayed in my room and slept off..which is why I didn't answer the calls..I only woke when Miel's aunty knocked on my room door. As i opened the door, I saw Miel's aunty and my FIL was standing next to her.. I noticed the relief look on my FIL's face...I'm so sorry for making you all worried and panicked. I learned my lesson and next time, I will be extra careful and will try my level best not to be so forgetful :P...and I have to learn to be brave...Now I wish, I learned martial arts..I'm sure i will be more brave..Not only that, I can karate anyone who cari pasal with me..:P

Late

Miel just called 10 mins ago to inform me that he'll be coming back home late. It's 8pm and he's still at office and I guess he will reaching home later than usual. Felt a little disappointed about that. I'm already missing him. Though I'm busy at work or focused on other stuffs, I constantly think of him. Ever since I was back at work after a long marriage leave, I tend to look at the clock anxiously, waiting for it to strike 5.10pm..I want to be at home before he comes back..before we got married, I told him that I want to be at home and wait for him to come back from work..and that's what I'm doing now :)...Hopefully he won't be so late today..and hopefully he will reach home safely..and I will wait for him impatiently to come back home..hehe:P

Thankful

I'm thankful that our wedding turn out well..I'm thankful to see all the happy faces of family and friends-happy with our wedding :)..I'm thankful that I'm welcomed wholeheartedly into my "new" family...I'm thankful that my new( in laws) family treats me well, loves and cares for me...I'm thankful to spend the rest of my life with you,Insya Allah..I'm thankful to have you in my life..I'm thankful to love you and to be loved by you..I'm thankful for everything Allah has given to me...Good or bad, I'm always thankful for everything..What ever unwanted incident that has happened or will happen in future, may Allah gives us and both our families enough strength to pull through it..Always believe that everything happens for a reason : Setiap kejadian ada hikmahnya...May we and both our families be blessed with peace, health, longevity and prosperity...

Love is one of the most subtle blessings that the Most Merciful One has bestowed upon humanity. It exists in everyone as a seed. This seed germinates under favorable circumstances and, growing like a tree, blossoms into a flower, and finally ripens, like a fruit, to unite the beginning with the end.  

Author :
M. Fethullah Gülen
Book Reference :
Pearls of Wisdom

Hati sebak

Yesterday evening, while I was in the car, I decided to call my dad to let him know that I'm already going back home.But the call couldn't get through. No coverage at the basement parking. When I was about to reverse my car, I saw my dad  through the side mirror, walking towards his car. I wind down my window and called him, Pa!!....I spoke to him for few seconds, salam his hands and he hugged me :)..As I was leaving the parking lot, all of sudden I felt "sebak"...Hati ni rasa sebak...I miss having him sitting next to me while I'm driving...Miss the conversations, and of course I miss the arguments we used to have..Thinking about it makes me laugh and makes me miss my dad even more...It was a sad feeling but I didn't cry..Felt that way until I reach home..3 weeks has passed and I still miss my parents and family...One thing for sure, I'm really thankful I'm not living that far from them...Could go visit them easily :)...

Article: Did I Marry The Right Person?

I was looking for this article emailed by my cousin. Coincidentally while I'm searching for an email by one of my vendors through my office mails, I found the article that I have been looking for....

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

Those who are still single may learn something from here....
Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage....
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question.
She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said,
"It depends. Is that your husband?"

In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love...

Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience.

But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades.

It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON;
IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love."

Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.

See told ya there's no Mr. Right :P

Leaving Home and Going to a New Home

Our beliefs, customs or tradition is that a newly married woman leaves her parents home and goes on to live at her in laws. Very rare the husband stays with his wife's family. After mine and Miel's reception, we went to his parents house for the cake cutting ceremony..When we reached his parents' home, we got stopped by his cousins..they won't let us in the house until Miel "pay" them..It's like you have to pay toll only then the crossbar will raise...It was really interesting to watch Miel being 'bullied' by them..hehehe..Finally, after putting up playful arguments, Miel's eldest aunty came to our rescue :)..the first step into my parents in law's house i felt really nervous but welcomed..so that was really good :)..after all the ceremonies, myself and Miel head to my parents house to stay there for few days..finally the day to leave my home, my family has come..it was really difficult for me..I was sobbing silently to myself and Miel knew that I'm feeling sad...The night before he said to me, "Esok nanti jgn menangis k"...I said, "I'll try but it's gonna be difficult" and he said, "Yeah, I know"...In the evening on that day, his cousin sister, sister and grandma came to jemput Miel and I to his parents' hse..Before leaving, my mum already prepared a game for both of us..it's called congkak..but it's unlike those traditional Malay congkak...everyone said it's unique :)..and the result of the match?..It was a DRAW..it's very rare you get draw in congkak game..my mum and grandma wanted to have a rematch..but I didn't want coz i'm happy with the result :)...when the moment to leave came, my mum hugged me..and both of us started to cry...I sobbed when i hugged each of my family member whom was there..everyone had teary eye..for some reason i felt really difficult to part from my brother and sister in law..When I hugged my sis in law, i hugged her tightly...and when i salam my bro, i held on to his hand and i didn't want to let go..only then i realized how attached i am to them especially my sis in law whom just came into our family a year ago...I was really sad to leave my family behind but Miel was there next to me...He consoled me and understood what I was going through...last week Miel and I stayed for 2 nights at my parents' house(some unwanted incident took place during this time, will talk more about it on the next post)and i didn't shed a tear when i leave..I guess i got over it...even then, deep inside, I still miss my parents, siblings and my home..No matter what, I know my family will always be there for me..they have done so much and I really appreciate it! :)